The other morning I woke up to a message from a male (Yay! Men are paying attention!) friend containing the link to this podcast. It's from the Free Sex Podcast which is produced by a couple of married, Christian women and comes from the point of view that the best sex is free, which according to their web site means "free from guilt, shame, or condemnation." They come at it from a perspective of married sex, but don't cast aspersions on anyone sexually active outside of marriage (at least not in the couple of podcasts I've listened to).
I've never heard of this pod cast, but I listened to this on my drive to work that day and it is so spot-on for my experience. I was driving and within the first 3-5 minutes of them starting on the topic, I was going "Yes! Oh my God!! YES!!" (and not for fun reasons, sadly...) out loud in my car. I can't wait to share this with my physical therapist. I think she's going to love it.
Everything they said hit home with me, in particular about how attempting sex in this situation feels like you are hitting a wall. I can't say how it feels for a man, but when The Guy (which is how I shall refer to the male friend I was attempting to have sex with when I discovered this unfortunate situation) was trying to penetrate my vagina, it felt like his penis was hitting a wall. Hard. Painfully hard. I can't imagine it felt good for him either, made worse on each side by the confusion of not knowing what the heck was going on.
From private conversations with friends, I know that many people have a connection to vaginismus, whether they have had issues or someone they know has had the problem. I hope anyone who listens to the podcast finds something beneficial.
Knowledge. Power. All that good stuff.
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